Wednesday, January 9, 2013

Proud Father


"Alam mo yung anak kong si Kyle, 12 years old palang pero ang galing nang mag make-up! Siya yung nag-ayos sa lahat ng pinsan niya nung family reunion namin." Said our company driver one morning while he was driving us to the office.

I normally sit in front of the van that takes us to our office in Makati which is why I get to chat with our driver during the trip. Unless I'm asleep.

His name is Roland and he's been with the company for almost as long as I have which is why we're kinda close.

He usually tells me about his family specially his son, Kyle, who he thinks is gay.

"Sabi ko nga sa Misis ko, at least talented si Kyle at may future siya" he added.

"Paano kung sa future sabihin niya sa inyo na bading talaga siya?" I asked.

"Ok lang. Wala naman masama dun saka bata palang siya nakakaramdam na kami eh." He answered without batting an eyelash.

I am amazed by how accepting Roland is. Sabi ko nga sa kanya, if it were other parents, they won't allow the kid to play with make-up and stuff. Susubukan siyang baguhin habang bata pa.

"Bakit naman namin gagawin yun? Eh yun yung gusto niya eh saka natutuwa nga kami ng Misis ko eh. Nung mas bata pa yang si Kyle, pag maglalaro sila ng mga pinsan niya, siya may hawak na laruang sundalo tapos pinsan niyang babae may hawak na barbie. Pag iniwan namin saglit, pagbalik namin siya na ang naglalaro dun sa barbie. Okay lang naman sa amin."

It's not everyday that I get to meet parents who are like this. Even some of my close friends and relatives wouldn't want their kids to be gay and yet every morning, I sit beside this man who constantly talks about his son who might be gay and that he's completely fine with it.

He tells me how proud he is of his son. And I can't help but smile and be overjoyed because in this world oozing with hate and contempt, there are still those who are open minded and more accepting.

It's not everyday you hear a dad saying that he's proud of having a gay kid.


It rekindles my faith in humanity. That there is a lot of good left in this world and that the most unsuspecting of people would find ways to amaze you.

So even if it's really early in the morning and I'd rather be in bed snoozing, I enjoy the conversations I have with Roland. A great man he is, a great father as well.

2 comments:

Jei Son said...

inspiring article. Parents know best but i respect also fathers who want their gay kid to be straight.

sin at work said...

awwww... :)
i like hearing these kinds of stories... Kyle is one lucky guy.
i've seen some guys na okay lang na bading sila not just with their parents but sa street din nila. tipong may respeto't dignidad din sila... kakainggit lang sila.
my parents weren't like that, but i still love my parents. nagets ko na they were against me being gay dahil sa ayaw nila ako mahirapan, dahil sa nakikita nilang nangyayari at pagtrato sa ibang mga bading... pero yes i still wish na sana suportahan din nila ako sana, na maka-kwentuhan ko din sana sila about how i am right now, relationships with guys, peer pressures, etc. pero i guess it just wouldn't happen for me.
masaya ako na may mga parents na supportive tulad ng kay Kyle. this post made me smile. :)